Let's Not Forget About Thanksgiving!

Thanksgiving is next week, but many Americans have been in Christmas mode since November hit. While I'm a fan of Christ-centered Christmas celebrations, let's not forget about Thanksgiving. Thankfulness is a major Bible theme, and we have much to be thankful for! James 1:17 tells us EVERY good and perfect gift is from above; therefore, we should thank God for all the good He gives us. And 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, it's God's will for us in Christ Jesus to give thanks in ALL circumstances. 

It's easy to complain and question God when hard things happen, but giving thanks should be a lifestyle for Christians. Those close to me know that my family has been experiencing some bumps lately, but through the Holy Spirit, we can still give thanks to our Heavenly Father. Thank You, Lord, for the finances. Thank You, Lord, for the insurance. Thank You, Lord, we don't have to get on a plane to visit our family. You are good. All the time.  

So how can we cultivate a heart of thankfulness, especially when life is challenging? Three years ago, I wrote a blog post about this, and I want to remind us of five simple spiritual practices that can help not just during Thanksgiving, but all the time.

1. READING God's Word - I can't emphasize how much being in my Bible has helped me to better understand how to be like Christ and give Him thanks for my family, church, job, and life. Read your Bible, and you'll realize it has much to say about how God's people should be a thankful bunch.

2. REMEMBERING God's Goodness - God has been so good to me. I've been able to adopt three children from China, watch our two daughters get married to godly men, celebrate over two decades of marriage with Megan, encourage all kinds of people in their Christian walk, and more. Take time to thank God for all the good He has done for you!

3. REFLECTING on God's Splendor - We need to stop dwelling on our ever-changing circumstances and look to the awe-inspiring, glorious God who is the Beautiful One. When we think deeply about who Jesus is, the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of His nature (Hebrews 1:3), we can be thankful people who reflect Christ to others.

4. REQUESTING God's Help - We aren't made to be independent, doing life on our own. Our Triune God created us and wants us to trust Him with our lives. When believers are humble and cry out to God as the Psalms instruct, God hears us and can provide comfort and peace during difficult times. This helps our hearts to be thankful regardless of the storms of life.   

5. RESTING in God - Are you a doer and fixer like me? Are you trying to control things and make sure everything is nice and neat? Well, life gets messy at times, and we must always trust Christ to be the source of our strength. If we don't, we will fall apart. Let's slow down, be still, and surrender ourselves to our Sovereign Lord who has everything in control.

There you have it. Read. Remember. Reflect. Request. And Rest. Nothing earth-shattering, but five ways that can cultivate a thankful heart. Who doesn't want that? May your heart be full of thanks this Thanksgiving and every day. To God be the glory.

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. Psalm 136:1

Beatitude 2: Are We Teaching Our Kids to Mourn?

When my father-in-law, Fred, passed away in the spring of 2023, I mourned. I experienced deep grief. This is the man who gave me a call one hot summer day and set me up with his oldest daughter, my wife. A man with whom I had regular phone calls to talk about life and how God was blessing us. The one whom my children called Grandpa Downs - a true servant of Christ who was a godly example of love, patience, kindness, and faithfulness. Although it was difficult to see Fred deteriorate due to Alzheimer's and Parkinson's, I knew he would be free from pain one day. I knew God would fix everything and give Fred a new glorified body upon Christ's return (1 Corinthians 15:51-52). When loved ones die, we should mourn. Even the toughest person in the world, Jesus Christ, mourned when Lazarus died (John 11:35).   

Is this the type of mourning Jesus spoke about in Matthew 5:4? "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." How can we be blessed, spiritually healthy and have a deep joy inside, if we're mourning? This seems to go against what being blessed should feel like. 

Jesus is talking to His disciples about having a deep grief, but the grief He wants us to have pertains to our sins and the sins of the world. We are blessed when we feel sadness and lament over our sins. When we grieve and weep over our impatience towards our children, our unrealistic expectations of our spouse, and our ungratefulness for our jobs and lives, we are blessed. God wants us to mourn and confess our sins to Him so He can comfort us. God is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort (2 Corinthians 1:3-4), and He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). When we agree with God that our hearts are deceitful and desperately sick (Jeremiah 17:9), God will comfort us through the Comforter, the Holy Spirit (John 14:26). 

Folks, if we want to be truly happy, if we want to be blessed, we will be different from the world. We won't hide or try to justify our bad thoughts, words, and actions. We'll repent of our sins; we'll change our minds about our sins, so there is a change of action. We'll mourn over our sins and walk in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16). People will see Christ in us. This is what believers in Christ look like because God is working in them. If we don't feel bad and mourn when we do bad, that's bad! We should mourn over our sins and then look up and praise our amazing God for the comfort He provides. That's good!

Remember, the Beatitudes aren't a list of what we must do, but rather a list of what Christians are and the rewards they receive. Are we mourning over our sins and the sins of the world? What about our children? Are we teaching them what it looks like to be blessed, not as the world teaches, but as Jesus says? If we aren't mourning over our pride, laziness, and unrighteous anger, let's cry out to the One who gives new hearts (Ezekiel 36:26) and renews our minds (Romans 12:2). To God be the glory!

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4

The Four Ts For Effective Communication

Communicating effectively can sometimes be difficult. Last weekend, my brother treated me to a delicious Italian meal in downtown Indy, and he told me I sounded short with our waiter. Boo. I was surprised by what he said, but thankful. I had told the waiter to give us a few minutes to order, and I thought what I said sounded great. I thought I communicated my desires concisely and clearly, but my brother thought I sounded a little rude and not so chipper. I didn't mean to sound rude, BUT I came across that way to at least one person whose opinion I respect. Later, I asked the waiter if he was from the area and how I could pray for him. He said his family needed to reconcile, and they could use some prayer. I'm grateful I was able to have a meaningful dialogue with this brother in Christ, and that he didn't perceive me as a jerk who didn't care about him.

I would love to tell you that last weekend was the first time I've been unaware of my poor communication. I would love to tell you that I've never been told that I sound proud and condescending. Not only have I been told that multiple times, but I've been told FAR WORSE about my communication. Boo. I'm thankful for courageous Christians who aren't afraid to call me out when my communication falls short of being Christlike. I'm grateful for the Holy Spirit, who not only convicts me of my sins but also guides me to say what I should and shouldn't. Effective communication isn't always easy, but I'm getting better at it, and I'm confident that my communication will improve. Thank you, Jesus.

How effective is your communication? If we had a camera on you 24/7 and posted it online for all to see, would we always see you expressing yourself lovingly to your family? Are beautiful words being expressed to your spouse, or are there screams and shouts of disappointment and despair? Are you expressing encouragement and joy to your children, or are you communicating impatience and frustration? Would your colleagues describe you as someone who shows love and respect with your words and actions? Before anyone thinks I'm always relaying God-glorifying messages from my lips, I'm not. I'm preaching this blog post to myself first and foremost; however, if I don't ask these questions, that would be the opposite of effective communication.

Here are four principles I stole from someone that have helped me communicate more effectively. I recommend thinking about the four Ts whenever you are having a conversation with someone. They've helped me a great deal, and I think they can help you as well.

1. TIMING - Is this the right time to say this? How are my emotions? How are their emotions? Is there a better time to say this, considering the current situation, location, and time we have?

2. TONE - Am I saying this with the right tone? Am I compassionate? Do I express Christlike love and concern, or do I sound overly emotional or like an angry idiot?

3. TECHNIQUE - Am I using the right words or emotionally charged words to get a reaction? Do I finger-point, blame, criticize, and refuse to see the plank in my own eye? Do I have anything positive to say?

4. TRUTH - Do I speak the truth in love, or do I avoid what is true? Am I loving the person enough to say what is true, even if it might be hard to say or hard to hear?

Yes, communication can be challenging, but considering the four Ts can help us enhance our communication and foster connections that honor God. Let's practice effective communication skills that draw people to Christ and bring glory to God. Just do it!

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer. Psalm 19:14

Seven Ways I Disciple My 7th Grader

Over the years, I've had the honor to disciple men from different walks of life - pastors, masons, and salesmen. I disciple men because God expects Christians to disciple Christians (Matthew 28:19). I'm thankful for the men who have poured into my life, and I want to pray for my younger brothers and help them in this short life. Life can be beautiful, but it can also be downright mean. We need all the help we can get in our marriages, parenting, work, finances, and more. I love it when men want to be discipled, and I love how the men I disciple draw me closer to Christ and help me in my walk with God. 

True disciples grow in Christlikeness by following Jesus' teachings. Jesus is the key to life, and the key to understanding Him is found in the Scriptures. God's Word tells us Jesus discipled ordinary men from diverse backgrounds - fishermen, a tax collector, and perhaps tradesmen. Jesus taught and trained these men to follow Him and live lives that would bring God glory. When I meet with men, it might be individually or in small groups. Sometimes I meet with men for years, and sometimes it's for a shorter season of life. Although we may not have the same occupations and interests, Jesus brings us together. We're adopted sons of God, united in Christ, and living in the Spirit.

As much as I enJOY meeting with different men and speaking truth into their lives, there is one guy I love to disciple more than anyone else - my seventh-grade boy, Josiah Lee. He's my number one disciple. He's my John, the disciple whom I'm closest to and spend the most time with. My greatest desire for Josiah Lee is that he loves Jesus more than anything and shares Jesus with others through his words AND actions. I love watching Josiah Lee drain a three on the court or when he brings home a report card with high marks, but what matters most to me is that he thinks, speaks, and acts like Christ. 

I will stand before God on Judgment Day, and I need Him to say, "Well done, good and faithful servant." I need my Heavenly Father to say that I discipled my son well. I am Josiah Lee's #1 teacher, so it's crucial that I set a Christlike example for him in all that I think, say, and do. Josiah Lee is watching me, learning from me, and copying me. I must do all I can to point Josiah Lee to Jesus so he can live life in the right way and bring God the glory. Below are seven ways I disciple Josiah Lee that hopefully can help you in your walk and when you disciple others. 

1. I've taught Josiah Lee to feed his soul before he feeds his face. When he hops in our family-friendly minivan with me for our five-minute drive to school, we typically talk about what we read in our Bibles that morning. 

2. When I pick up Josiah Lee from school, I ask him about his school day. Was there anything eventful about the day? Who did you sit with at lunch, and what did you all talk about? I often ask Josiah Lee what he learned in Bible class and chapel.

3. Josiah Lee serves on the tech team and helps with the three-year-olds at our church. When he doesn't have those responsibilities, he might answer sermon questions I provide him on paper during the service. We might also talk about the sermon after church and how we can apply the message in our lives.

4. Typically, Josiah Lee goes to youth group on Wednesdays and Sunday school before the Sunday morning service. He needs other people speaking truth into his life. I trust his teachers, but Josiah Lee and I must talk about the lessons he's learning. Sometimes he teaches me a thing or two. :-)

5. Before and during sporting events, I remind Josiah Lee that complaining is a sin and to be thankful that he gets to use his God-given body to compete and have fun. I remind Josiah Lee about the pain Jesus suffered on the cross and to give God the glory regardless of his playing time, the officiating, and what the opposition and crowd say and do.

6. I regularly talk with Josiah Lee about Jesus, and sometimes we have family devotions in the evenings. Two nights ago at dinnertime, we watched a four-minute video about family and ministry, talked about it, and then prayed.

7. Josiah Lee and I enJOY watching Instagram and TikTok videos on my iPhone. The social media videos we watch can be super serious (e.g., a Christian teacher answering worldview questions on a college campus) or absolutely silly (e.g., a baby eating bacon for the first time), but whatever we watch, we do so from a biblical lens. We enJOY the life God has given us and talk and laugh in a way that honors Him.

So, how do you disciple your children and others? I would love to hear what has worked for you. And let me know if you have questions or if there is anything I can do to help you. To God be the glory!

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Don't Just Talk the Talk...Walk the Walk!

For about half my life, I was a pretty good hypocrite, a whitewashed tomb, acting one way in front of others and sometimes living differently behind closed doors. I wanted people to like me and think I was good, but I didn't love God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength. My heart was often consumed with worldly pleasures, and instead of worshiping Christ as Lord, He was simply my ticket to Heaven. Sure, I participated in some upstanding Christian activities, but I cared more about my bank account and coaching success than I did growing in the Lord. I wish someone had discipled me during my adolescent and young adult years. I made countless mistakes, and I'm thankful God didn't quit on me. We certainly serve a merciful and gracious God who is mighty to save!

I keep making dumb mistakes, but reading and studying God's Word regularly has helped me tremendously in my various roles, such as husband, father, and friend. I don't have a specific place or time I always read my Bible, but I've kept a reading plan since around the late 1990s. God's Word is the sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17) and helps us fight complaining, laziness, pride, and other "respectable" sins that we think aren't a big deal. We should hide God's Word in our hearts so we might not sin against Him (Psalm 119:11). James tells us we simply can't be hearers of the Word - we must do it (James 1:22)! And if we aren't in God's Word, how do we know how to do God's Word? How do we know if we're walking in a manner worthy of the Lord? The world tells you to follow your heart, but that is unbiblical (Jeremiah 17:9). If I followed my heart every time someone made a bonehead move on the road, there would probably be multiple YouTube videos of Wickamania runnin' wild with rage! 

This year at Evansville Christian School, we've been focused on the Book of James at our chapels. Have you read these five chapters written by Jesus' half-brother? Doing so only takes 15-17 minutes, and it will encourage you to live out your faith through good works. The 108 verses were written around 45 AD, probably making James the oldest of the New Testament books. It consists of over 50 commands that provide a clear guide to a godly life. Think of it as the "Proverbs of the New Testament." Much of the Bible can be difficult to comprehend, but the Book of James is an easier read and super practical. Whether you're a new believer or have been a Christian for decades, the Book of James can help all of us to live as faithful followers of Christ. Check out the verses below and have them on repeat in your head!

• ...Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger (James 1:19)
• ...Show no partiality... (James 2:1)
• Do not speak evil against one another... (James 4:11)
• ...Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another...(James 5:16)

Imagine if the whole world obeyed these commands. Wow. We would be living on a radically different planet if that were the case. If you're a Christian, you have the Holy Spirit to enable you to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. Let's do that. Let's be in God's Word, do God's Word, and bring God the glory!

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. James 1:22

Cultivating a Thankful Heart

Thanksgiving is around the corner, and there is much to be thankful for...

• My oldest of three is getting married to a godly young man in just two weeks!
• We're members at a great church where I get to serve in a variety of capacities. 
• I have a beautiful wife who draws me to Christ and children walking with the Lord.
• I have a fantastic job that allows me to teach high schoolers what God's Word says. 

My Facebook and Instagram accounts clearly show that God has blessed me big time. What my social media accounts don't show is that life isn't always hunky-dory. Life can definitely be difficult, demanding, and depressing at times. Despite this, we are told to give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you (1 Thessalonians 5:18). How does one do this when family members are clashing, your finances have taken a hit, or the minds and bodies of loved ones are being destroyed by disease? It may not be easy all the time, but here are some simple and essential spiritual practices we can put into place so we complain less and thank God more. To God be the glory!

1. READING God's Word - The Bible is God's word to us and provides us with the answers to life. The Bible reminds us that every good and perfect gift is from above (James 1:17) and equips us to be ATMs (automated thanking machines). Reading and studying your Bible will help you be more joyful and grateful for life. 

2. REMEMBERING God's Goodness - My first date with Megan, holding my children for the first time, being offered a job at ECS, God opening my eyes and giving me a new heart, and the list goes on and on. Take time to look back on all that God has done for you! The LORD has done great things for us; we are glad. Psalm 145:17

3. REFLECTING on God's Splendor - Often I'm navel-gazing when I should be setting my mind on things above (Colossians 3:2). As I meditate on my Heavenly Father and Christ who sits at His right hand, my mind is filled with only beauty. I see a holy God who shines the light of His glory - a light that I can actually shine on others.

4. REQUESTING God's Help - We can't do it alone. Life can be overwhelming, and we need to cry out to God. God is there for us, but we need to get on our knees and admit our dependence on Him. Be humble and communicate continuously with the Creator of the universe. When we cry out to God, He sees our hearts and responds with love (Romans 5:8).

5. RESTING in God - I'm a doer who likes to check off boxes. That isn't always bad, but we must learn to quiet ourselves, be still, and acknowledge that God is sovereign and reigns supreme (Job 42:2). I need to slow down and trust that God has complete control of everything. Take a walk with Megan, go fishing with Josiah Lee, have a meal with my daughters - simply enJOY the life God has given us.

What are some ways you cultivate a thankful heart? I would love to hear from you!

Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. Colossians 4:2

My Ten Most Popular Facebook Pictures in 2020

Below are the most popular pictures taken and posted on my Facebook account (all but three via Instagram) in 2020. Only one picture doesn't contain a smile, so it appears this is what people want to see. We'll keep working on that. Here are my most popular pics from Facebook in the past years: 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018, & 2019. Happy New Year!

Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! Psalm 100:4

A shout-out goes to Diana Tkachuk for the great family pic at the State Hospital Park.

Megan and I took this selfie on our 16th anniversary. It has been an incredible journey!

Josiah Lee and I went camping at Beall Woods State Park in southeastern Illinois.

Josiah Lee caught this bowfin (over two feet long and a new Wickersham record) all by himself.

Grace Noel scored a couple of goals, including the game-winner on Rosalie's senior night.

We enjoyed the beautiful March weather and went hiking at Lincoln State Park.

On Christmas Day, I showed Rosalie the Purdue campus where I attended from 91 to 93.

I tap into my inner middle schooler and get in the Christmas spirit at ECS.

I caught this record-setting bass on my kayak at Blue Grass FWA.

Another picture from Diana Tkachuk on a beautiful fall day in southern Indiana.

Water Turned To Wine

Water Turned To Wine from Mark Wickersham

Wick's 2019 Highlights

Now that we've been in the States for 3.5 years, it's safe to say that all of us have adjusted to life here. God was, of course, good to us again. Here are past Wickersham highlights: 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017, & 2018.

January - After using a gift card at a local Mexican restaurant, Megan and I enjoyed our first Cirque du Soleil production (Corteo) in Evansville. The tickets were a Christmas gift I gave Megan.

February - I started taking an online biblical leadership course through biblicaltraining.org. I would enjoy taking Bible classes at a seminary or college again; however, that's not how I feel led to use my time and finances at this stage in my life. Perhaps in the future.

March - Megan and I attended a marriage retreat at our local church, Faith Bible Church. We're thankful our church hosts such events to help people have Christ-Centered marriages.

April -  Josiah Lee played in his first soccer match since the fall of 2016. He didn't want to play organized sports again until I said I would coach him, and now he has the confidence to suit up without dad shouting from the sidelines.

May - Rosalie and I ran in our first 5K together, and she beat me. Although I still have some speed, I have never been much of a runner. I'm trying to change that somewhat.

June - In an effort to get in better shape, I purchased a mountain bike. Occasionally, I ride my bike to work just like in my China days.

July - We took a trip to South Carolina to visit friends Megan went to college with at Wheaton, as well as people we did life with in China. We also stopped in Newnan, Georgia, to visit the LDi corporate office and hang out with old friends.

August - Our good friends, the Scroggins, paid us another summer visit. The previous month, the Strongs and TJ made the trek to Evansville. We love to reconnect with our TIS amigos.

September - Rosalie missed a PK in a soccer match that would have put ECHS up 1-0 (they ended up defeating Tell City 3-1), but she scored the game-winner against Washington's JV squad off a nice free kick. I'm thankful to be able to watch my kiddos contribute on the pitch.

October - Megan and Grace Noel went on the 8th-grade class trip to DC, a trip Rosalie and I went on when she was an 8th grader. Grace Noel got the honor of participating in a wreath-laying ceremony at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier.

November - A super cold soccer showcase in Indy allowed us to spend time with our parents and my brother. Grace Noel also competed in a showcase in Cincy, and the two of us, of course, made a stop at Skyline Chili.

December - Before having a fantastic Christmas break with our families in Avon and Frankfort, Indiana, we spend the night in Nashville and attend Zoolumination, the country's largest Chinese lantern festival.

Happy Birthday to my Mother-In-Law

Today is my mother-in-law's birthday. I first met Carol in 1997 when I was a 23-year-old teacher at Frankfort Middle School, home of the Hot Dogs. I was teaching Western Hemisphere geography to sixth graders, and she taught choir. We didn't talk to each other much, but a few years later, Carol told me about her daughter who taught in China.

Not too long after that conversation, Fred and Carol thought it would be a good idea for Megan and me to meet. How does one thank a woman who raises a child who later becomes my wife and the one who draws me closer to Christ than anyone? Obviously, I will never be able to thank Carol enough for what she has done for me. Thankfully, there is One who will reward her for the work she has done.

I think the whole world should meet Carol and know at least a few ways she has blessed me.

1. Carol is a servant. I don't know anyone who outserves her. She serves her husband, her children, and her grandchildren. She is constantly denying herself and investing in her family to show Christlike love and bring God glory. I don't know how to say this nicely, but you have to be an absolute bonehead not to see that she is an ambassador for Christ.

2. Carol is an encourager. I really have a mediocre voice, but she has told me a few times that I can sing. If others have been critical of me, she listens and wants to come to my defense. If you've ever seen me coach, intense might be a good description. If Carol were your coach, she would be smiling all the time, and you would feel good about what you're accomplishing. She is definitely a glass-half-full kind of person.

3. Carol is gracious. When people mess up, instead of complaining and calling them out, she shows them kindness, love, and mercy. She's not just like this in public; she's like this at home. She's the real deal. My kiddos see me sin, and I have to ask for their forgiveness from time to time. Carol doesn't display this kind of impatience and anger. I know Carol is a sinner like me, but she definitely has some Holy Ghost power working in her!

4. Carol is faithful. Like Fred, she is faithful to her family, friends, and fellowship. If you don't believe me, ask around. Others will definitely say the same thing. She is a Godly woman who more than contributes to the family, is a loyal friend, and has been actively involved in a local body of believers for decades. She is faithful and proves our faith is real.

Happy Birthday, Carol. I'm deeply honored to be your son-in-law, and I look forward to celebrating with you soon!

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:16-17

Happy 15th Anniversary, Megan!

Today, Megan and I celebrate 15 years of marriage. Where did the time go?! Our marriage has not always been pink fluffy unicorns dancing on rainbows, but through it all, Christ has been at the center. Megan continues to draw me closer to Christ, and I certainly know I wouldn't be where I am today had God not brought us together. Of course, I still have much to learn and can be a little rough around the edges, but thankfully, God isn't finished with me. Below are 15 ways that God is using Megan to point me to the King of Kings and Lord of All, Jesus Christ.

1. I like to fix things, but Megan has taught me the importance of listening and asking questions. It can be hard for me(n), and I (we) don't always do a good job in this area, but I think I've come a long way!

2. Sometimes I forget that toughness is not one of the fruit of the Spirit. Megan will provide me with a look, a touch, the words, or a prayer that helps me take it down a notch when some gentleness is needed.

3. Megan has helped me be more generous with our finances, something I need help with and something I struggled with tremendously in the past. I don't always remember to be a cheerful giver.

4. I often prefer reading about service instead of doing it. I've shared with many people about a time when I didn't want to be a part of a community project. Megan told me I should start doing what I'm reading. Ouch.

5. There was an occasion when I had very unloving thoughts toward someone important in my life, and instead of criticizing me, Megan prayed and allowed the Spirit to do His work. I don't think I'll forget that.

6. Life can be hard, and Jesus promises that suffering will take place. I hate watching Megan experience pain, but she often suffers well and points me to the cross.

7. Megan has been instrumental in helping me better understand several spiritual disciplines, such as Scripture memorization, small group studies, praying with others, and reading solid Christian books that help me know Christ. I'm blessed.

8. Sometimes people praise me for being a good communicator. Much of what I write or present is edited by Megan. She provides excellent feedback that I typically agree with.

9. There is no doubt that I'm a better parent because of what Megan has taught me. She has read a ton of parenting books and gleaned much from Godly people.

10. Megan asked me what I thought about adoption when we were just getting to know each other. Her advocacy for adoption has resulted in a world I never knew.

11. Megan has taught me much about evangelism and opening our home to others. She has a heart for God and others that is the real deal.

12. Megan is very relational and loves our family and friends. When I want to retreat and selfishly eat beef jerky in the corner of a room, she gets me out of my shell to connect with people.

13. I tend to have a critical eye, but Megan is much better at seeing the glass half full and encouraging others. I know this is one of the million reasons why God brought us together.

14. I don't always smile like I should, and sometimes I'm responding to others way too seriously. When Megan sees this, she'll sometimes make a joke or give me a hug that helps me lighten up.

15. Although I'm not a big art guy, this weekend we'll watch a romantic musical in Lexington. Score. Megan's B.A. has an emphasis in visual art, and I know art will have a much bigger emphasis in Heaven.

The LORD has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy. Psalm 126:3

Our First Three Years: A Long-Distance Relationship

Megan and I got married on July 10th, 2004. This was almost three years after our first date at Ruth's Chris Steak House, and a year after I asked Megan to marry me. I wanted to ask Megan to marry me sooner; however, I lacked some spiritual maturity and waited for a summer break to ask Megan's dad for permission to propose to her.

During our first year of courtship, Megan lived in Changchun, China, and I lived near her hometown of Frankfort, Indiana. Megan taught English to university students in a Chinese city of three million, and I taught Western Hemisphere geography to 6th graders in a small Indiana town. Our worlds were just a little bit different.

During the start of our second year as a couple, God brought me a little closer to Megan when I started teaching English at a hakwon on a Christian university campus in Cheonan, South Korea. During this time, Megan and I were able to visit each other a bit more since our flight time went from roughly 22 hours to two hours.

During our year of engagement, I found a sweet social studies job at an outstanding international school in China, and Megan accepted a new position in Beijing. We were now only 1.5 hours apart by train.

Having a long-distance relationship during our first three years together was tough, but it was good in numerous ways. I'm thankful for how God planned it out and wouldn't want it any other way.

1. We got to know each other better via email, messaging, phone calls, and letters. Megan taught me how to be a better listener (I'm still working on this) and how to ask questions (about how she felt).

2. We had a deeper appreciation for the time when we were together. We often were in two vastly different worlds, so when we did get to spend time with each other, it made it that much better.

3. Being apart showed me how much I wanted us to be together. We complement one another. I'm an ISTJ, and she's the exact opposite - ENFP. Where I'm weak, Megan is strong.

4. Most importantly, Megan taught me much about myself and drew me closer to Christ. We read and discussed the same devotional books and memorized the same Bible verses. I had to pray more than ever and apply what God was teaching me. God certainly used Megan to shape me and point me in His direction. To Him be the glory.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22

Megan, the donkey, and I took a pic at the El Sol de Tala Mexican restaurant on the east side of Indy.

Ten Questions: When Wick Met Megan

With Valentine's Day one week away, I wanted to share a special moment from August 2001.

1. How did you and Megan meet? Megan's dad called me and asked me if I would like to meet his daughter.

2. How did you know Megan's dad? We used to work together at Frankfort Middle School, and we were in a men's Bible study group.

3. What were you doing just before the call? I was giving my dog, Yuki, a bath.

4. What did you know about Megan before the first date? I knew she was on her summer break from teaching university students in China and that she was a Christian.

5. What did you not know before the first date? I didn't realize that Megan hadn't given her parents permission to call me. I thought she saw a picture of me in a yearbook or paper and thought I was cute. :-)

6. How did you feel when Mr. Downs asked you if you would be interested in meeting his daughter? I was truly honored. I had, and still have, a great deal of respect for Fred, and I couldn't believe he thought I was good enough to go on a date with Megan.

7. What did you think when you first saw Megan? I thought Megan had a sweet smile, and her eyebrows really impressed me. :-) I thought it was cool that she invited me to her parents' place and had me try some longan, a fruit found in China.

8. Where did you go on the first date? I gave Megan a few nice restaurant options, and she chose Ruth's Chris Steak House. She didn't realize it was an upscale fine-dining establishment. :-) We also took a stroll on the Canal Walk in Indianapolis.

9. What did you drive? I owned a beige 93 Chevy Silverado 1500. I considered picking up Megan in my dad's Porsche 911 Targa, but it's not me.

10. How was the first date? Despite being super smooth and telling Megan I wasn't into China, by the grace of God, I got a second date.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22

An engagement pic taken in Changchun, China, during the summer of 2003

Wick's 2017 Highlights

2017 was our first full year back in the States, and God once again blessed us abundantly. Read below. Here are past Wickersham highlights: 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, & 2016.

January - We attend a God-glorifying wedding at Indiana Wesleyan University and have a Chinese mini-reunion.

February - We decide to purchase a brick ranch house in Evansville and like it for numerous reasons.

March - I visit Las Vegas with my dad and brother and watch the Kobalt 400, consume fantastic food, and have crucial conversations. Megan and I provide a little glimpse at FSBC about what the Father has done and is doing in the Middle Kingdom.

April - I attend the Gospel Coalition conference in Indianapolis and hear the gospel of grace proclaimed by men who have taught me much over the years.

May - We now have a high schooler, a middle schooler, and a kindergarten student in the Wickersham household. How did this happen?

June - My dad treats us to a two-night stay at the Peabody Memphis: Bass Pro Shops, BBQ, Graceland, Shelby Farms, and more!

July - We go to the Ark Encounter and hang out with friends we did life with in China. A few days later, we visit family in Richmond, Indiana, and make a presentation at their church. Soon after that, we visit St. Louis and enjoy time at the zoo, Science Center, and World Chess Hall of Fame.

August - We host a Chinese college student for three weeks and are invited by our friends to speak about adoption at a church in Johnson City, Tennessee.

September - I became the Cullen Campus principal at Evansville Christian School - so thankful to have a great job in a great community.

October - It's the 500th Anniversary of the Reformation. Soli Deo Gloria.

November - We part ways with the Wickmobile, and I spend some time in Bloomington, Indiana, on an ACSI accreditation visit. I also enjoyed catching up with an old buddy from Avon.

December - We celebrate Christmas with our families in Avon and Frankfort, Indiana, and spend time with other family members at various times during the month. God is good.

My Seven Most Popular Facebook Pictures in 2017

Below are the most popular pictures taken and posted on my Facebook account (most via Instagram) in 2017. Here are my most popular Facebook pics from 2015 & 2016. Lots of smiles and much to be thankful for. Enjoy.

Let everything that has breath praise the LORD! Praise the LORD! Psalm 150:6

Rosalie completed 8th-grade at Evansville Christian School. 

We took a family pic at Megan's parents' home and celebrated Easter in Frankfort, Indiana.

We took a family pic at IWU, where we attended the wedding of good friends we worked with in China.

2017-18 Evansville Christian School Faculty & Departmental Staff

Josiah Lee turned the big six in November. Time flies.

This summer, we enjoyed a few days in Memphis, Tennessee. Elvis, BBQ, & the Peabody Ducks. Fun.

We celebrated Grace Noel's 12th Gotcha Day at Orange Leaf. Yum.

Why I'm Thankful For My 20+ Years Overseas

Although I claim to be a Hoosier, I'm a mixed-up one. Nearly half of my life has been spent overseas, which has made me a little unique. I like to catch largemouth bass and eat sushi. I'm comfortable with a fist bump, handshake, or deep bow. My "love" for soccer started in Brazil, and I wear a wedding band purchased in Thailand - a country I lived in before moving to "The Hoosier State." Living overseas has profoundly impacted me, and I'm thankful for all that I've experienced outside of the States. Below are seven reasons why I'm thankful to have spent so much time around the world.

1. You get to try new food. Scorpions, starfish, and seahorses. Yes, I've consumed all of them (just not at the same time).

2. You get to learn new languages. It's interesting when a language you once thought sounded a bit funky becomes normal to you. Domo arigato, Mr. Roboto.

3. You get to celebrate new holidays. If you like fireworks, try the Chinese New Year in China. It's like a battle zone.

4. You gain new friends. Who doesn't want that? Only a Scrooge. Don't be a Scrooge.

5. You learn about the world in ways books and videos simply can't teach. As a former geography teacher, I often know more facts about a country than the people from the country. Despite this, you need to experience the culture to truly begin to understand it.

6. You learn about yourself. Living overseas can definitely be character-building and a time of growth. You'll be placed in uncomfortable situations that will humble you and show you how you're not all that.

7. You can worship with other believers in different languages. I have sung, prayed, listened to sermons, and read the Bible with brothers and sisters in atheist, Buddhist, and Muslim nations. God has provided me a little glimpse of Heaven during my time overseas.

Never been overseas? What's stopping you? Have you done any traveling? What have you enjoyed about being overseas? I would enjoy hearing from you.

March 2012 - We're leaving our apartment complex in Tianjin (China) to go out to eat.

Wick's 2016 Highlights

2016 was a year of major changes. Some of the changes were challenging, but they were also good. Read below. Here are past Wickersham highlights: 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, & 2015.

January - I preach my last sermon at Tianjin International Fellowship: Psalm 8. Praise, worship, and bring glory to God.

February - After a 13-year break, I return to coaching a high school girls' soccer team. Go Lady Eagles!

March - We visit Grace Noel's orphanage in Hubei Province and meet her foster mother. It's hard to believe it has been ten years.

April - We accidentally leave Rosalie's $3600 French horn in a taxi, but it's returned to us a few days later. We're thankful for the police and our Chinese friends. Why are French horns so crazy expensive?!

May - I accept a new position as a 6th-9th grade assistant principal at Evansville Christian School (ECS). God is good.

June - We leave Tianjin and move to Newburgh, Indiana. I started driving a 1997 Plymouth minivan.

July - We drive to Florida and attend a family wedding. It's great to catch up with those we haven't seen in a long time.

August - Rosalie tries a new sport, cross country, Grace Noel makes the 5th-6th grade soccer team at ECS, and Josiah Lee joins Newburgh Youth Soccer as a Red Shark.

September - Megan and I speak about our Tianjin lives to a group of Chinese at St. Paul's Lutheran Church. It's good for us to be able to connect with the Chinese in the Evansville community.

October - The University of Southern Indiana (USI) hires Megan as an ESL instructor. Go Screaming Eagles!

November - I start coaching soccer players at the Metro Sports Center and decide to start playing on a team. The knees aren't the same, but I can still kick a ball.

December - Megan gets hired as an ESL instructor at Vincennes University. We owe a few people a debt of gratitude.

Reviewing Collaborative Marriage Skills ( Couple Communication I)

Collaborative Marriage Skills is a 143-page book that Megan and I used in a small group several years ago. This fifth edition was published in 2007 and consists of five chapters:

1. Choosing Communication Styles
2. Identifying Issues
3. Using Your Awareness Wheel
4. Applying the Listening Cycle
5. Mapping Issues

The book contains many charts and diagrams and is organized well. Keywords are often italicized, have bold red or black letters, or are part of a bulleted list. We used a version of the book that doesn't have Scripture; however, everyone in our group was Christian, so we integrated the Good Book into our discussions.

Collaborative Marriage Skills is very practical and can be used by both Christian and non-Christian couples. You'll get the most out of the book by taking notes in it and reading and discussing the material with others. Although Collaborative Marriage Skills did not solve all of our marriage problemos, I recommend it if you desire to better resolve conflict and enjoy your spouse.

Reviewing John Piper's The Dangerous Duty of Delight

John Piper's The Dangerous Duty of Delight is a condensed version of his classic, Desiring God (1986). Those who know me will not find it surprising that I highly recommend both books (I've read more than 15 of Chancellor Piper's books). The second edition of The Dangerous Duty of Delight was released in 2011 with the following subtitle: Daring to Make God Your Greatest Desire. I read the original edition (2001), which was released with this subtitle: The Glorified God and The Satisfied Soul. The 2001 edition consists of fewer than 100 pages that are divided into the following nine chapters:

Chapter 1: Treating Delight As Duty Is Controversial
Chapter 2: Glorify God by Enjoying Him Forever
Chapter 3: Affections Are Not Optional
Chapter 4: Pursuing Pleasure Undermines Pride and Self-Pity
Chapter 5: Pursue Your Joy in the Joy of the Beloved
Chapter 6: What Does It Mean for Worship?
Chapter 7: What Does It Mean for Marriage?
Chapter 8: What Does It Mean for Money?
Chapter 9: What Does It Mean for Missions?

In The Dangerous Duty of Delight, Piper reminds us how all of us have a longing that can't be satisfied by coaching victories, praise from our colleagues, traveling to international locations, or even spending time with our loved ones. Our hearts are restless until we fulfill our duty to delight in the one true Object of human desire - God Almighty. If we fulfill this duty, our attitudes toward church services, our mates, homes, and our very purpose in life can radically change.

If you're a Christian looking for a solid book that is easy to understand, check out The Dangerous Duty of Delight. If you're not a Christian but are open to reading a short book not short on Scripture, check out The Dangerous Duty of Delight. Outside of the Bible, no author has blessed me more than John Piper, and perhaps he can do the same for you.

Wick's 2014 Highlights

It's that time of the year when I reflect on how our Father has blessed me. Here are past Wickersham highlights: 2010, 2011, 2012, & 2013

January - On the 21st, we celebrated having Josiah for one year. He has rocked our world.

February - To the surprise of many, I announced that I would not be serving as the middle school principal after June. I am thankful to be able to return to the classroom and be one of Rose's teachers.

March - I started using an iPad at work in preparation for the August rollout for TIS students in grades 3-6. The larger screen enabled me to increase my Hill Climb scores exponentially.

April - A few other TIS educators and I attended a learning innovation symposium at Shekou International School in Shenzhen, China. I gained a better understanding of how iPads can be more than video game devices.

May - I coached Rose and a group of 5th-grade girls en route to winning the ISCOT elementary soccer championship. We are the champions, my friends. And we'll keep on fighting 'til the end. We are the champions.

June - Dr. Klootwyk performed ACL reconstruction and repaired the meniscus in my right knee, 16 years after he performed ACL reconstruction on my left knee. Both injuries are the result of playing the greatest sport in the world, soccer.

July - Megan and I celebrated ten years of marriage. Megan gifted me with some home decor that contained a Martin Luther quote: "Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave." I started crying like a baby.

August - I returned to the classroom after four years of being a middle school principal. To say I enjoy teaching sixth graders the Word and His world is quite the understatement.

September - For the first time in five years, I find myself coaching in some middle school soccer games. To my delight, the majority of the sixth-grade girls, including Rose, came out for the team.

October - Grace played in her first official soccer games, and I got to serve as her coach. Grace went into beast mode, scoring eight goals while helping her third-grade squad to a 3-2 tournament record. I look forward to more fun on the field in the spring.

November - My Lady Eagles squad placed second in the seven-team ISC middle school soccer tournament. The girls busted their butts all season, and we had a great deal of fun. After the soccer season, I added 6th and 7th-grade girls volleyball to my coaching resume.

December - My first semester back in the classroom after a four-year absence comes to a completion. I had a ton of fun and look forward to 2015!