Treasure Christ! The Parable of the Rich Fool

If you are reading this blog, you're likely rich like I am. I may drive an older minivan, but only 10-20% of our global population owns a vehicle. Our single-story, three-bedroom home is well below the median sale price for U.S. homes; however, it's substantially larger than the average home in the world. The world tells me to buy a full-size truck and move into the bigger home being sold across the street, but newer and bigger aren't always better. The world is telling us we need to do more to maximize our income and savings, but what does the Bible say about wealth? A lot! Did you know there are more than 2,000 Bible verses about money?

With the Bible saying so much about cash and currency, we have no excuse for not having a biblical understanding of money. Money is needed to survive in modern society, and big bucks can do much good. Money may not be everything, but don't ever tell a poor person that money doesn't matter. Money matters. How does one afford a safe home, healthy food, and mounting medical bills? Money. 

Abraham, Jacob, Isaac, Job, David, Solomon, Job, Nicodemus, and Lydia all had deep pockets, and there is much good that we wealthy people can do. God wants us to be cheerful givers (2 Corinthians 9:7) and honor Him with our wealth (Proverbs 3:9). We do need to be careful and not allow money to become a god in our lives. This is something I did in my early 20s. Being rich is not a sin, but we've all heard stories of people pursuing wealth in a way that wrecks their marriages, careers, and lives. Let's always choose God over money (Luke 16:13) and not forget that 1 Timothy 6:10 says the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.

What's with all the money talk? This month at our ECS chapels, we'll be looking at the Parable of the Rich Fool found in Luke 12:13-21. Here Jesus warns us against being greedy, materialistic, and thinking money will solve everything. A man from a crowd asks Jesus to settle an inheritance dispute with his brother, probably an older brother. Jesus refuses to judge the matter and tells all who can hear that we should be content with what God has given us and that our lives are much more than accumulating a bunch of wealth. 

Jesus then proceeds to talk about a rich farmer whose land produces a massive harvest. The farmer's storage space was too small, so he decides to tear down his barns and build bigger ones to store all of his grains and goods. The farmer tells himself he is set for years, so he can now relax and enjoy the good life. God calls him a fool, saying the farmer's life will be taken from him, and asking who will get his goods now. Jesus says that we are fools to store up earthly riches and not be rich towards God.

What's Jesus' point?

1. Our worth is not based on what we own.
2. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Money can't buy us everything.
3. When we have extra, we should share it.
4. It's far greater to be spiritually rich (close to God and loving others) than to be materially rich.

I hope you believe this. If you want to hear about setting your heart on Christ and blessing others, please join us at our chapels. I believe you'll be blessed and will gain wisdom that can help you better invest in God's kingdom. To Him be the glory! 

Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.  2 Corinthians 9:7 

The 2026 Flourishing Families Study - Parenting: It's Not What You Think...

Do you find parenting to be like the pretty picture below? Is your family always smiling and exchanging pleasantries? Although my family truly enjoys spending time together, we haven't been oozing the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) every second of our lives. Sometimes I've been an unloving, impatient, and unkind blockhead. Parenting can be hard stuff, but I'm not making it any easier when I fail to look to the cross and allow my feelings to be the ultimate guide. I need help, BIG TIME. I'm thankful our all-powerful, all-knowing, good God has provided us help in a variety of ways.

One of our core values at ECS is to commit to partnership, and one way we do this is through the Flourishing Families studies being held at the following five churches. It's hard to believe, but this is our third year having these parenting studies.  

• Christian Fellowship Church
• Crossroads Christian Church
• Epworth Community Church
• Henderson's First Baptist Church
• One Life Church

This year, we will be using Paul Tripp's Parenting: It's Not What You Think It Is video series. Although both of my daughters are married, and Megan and I only have an eighth-grade boy in our home now, we still have much to learn about parenting. Pastor Paul Tripp has been married for over 50 years and has four adult children, so he is someone who can help us learn how to raise children in God's ways. He has taught me much about living a gospel-centered life, and I believe he can help us disciple our children and find rest in God. 

Being a great dad is super important to me, and if you're a parent, being a great parent should be of the utmost importance to you. Please consider signing up for one of the studies to gain insight into being a better parent and help your family flourish. You don't have to be a member of any of the churches, and if you're struggling with knowing what you believe, that's okay, too. These studies are a time when we can be real with each other, provide encouraging support, and better understand the best way to parent. 

If you can't make one of the Sunday or Wednesday evening studies, join us at Epworth Community Church for the study I'm facilitating on Monday mornings from 8 to 9:30 AM. It begins February 23rd, and you can sign up here. Raising children can be challenging, and there is no need to do it alone. Let's learn and grow together and bring God the glory. I hope to see you there!

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Beatitude 5: Are We Teaching Our Kids to be Merciful?

Can you define mercy? Mercy is a word we often hear, but I'm not confident that many can explain it. Lots of people confuse it with grace. Grace is unmerited favor. It's a God-given gift that you don't deserve. We named our first kid, Grace Noel. She's a gift from God that we don't deserve. I've committed countless crimes against God, but God, in His amazing grace, saved me and showed me I was a selfish sinner worshiping my success and money. My pursuit of Jesus was shallow for a few years, and I wasn't living life for God's glory. God woke me up, though, and I'm now a trophy of His grace.

So what is mercy? Mercy is about not getting what you do deserve. You've messed up big time, but the person you wronged doesn't smack you for your stupidity. 

Are you familiar with the Parable of the Prodigal Son? Here is the ultimate story of mercy. You have two sons, one who does everything "right" and one who does everything wrong. The younger son disrespectfully demands his share of the estate, and the father lets his sinful son go his way. The son squanders his wealth recklessly, but then realizes he can return to his dad and live a far better life as a servant. When the son returns, the dad doesn't rip into him and reject him for his foolish choices. No, he shows him mercy and is thankful the son has returned home. This doesn't sit well with the older self-righteous brother, who is following all of the rules. Where do you see yourself in this story? Are you like the older son, a judgmental Pharisee, or are you like the younger son who sees his sins and confesses them? Are we like the dad, who represents God, who embraces his son with love and mercy despite all of the dumb decisions he made?

God has provided me with tons of opportunities to show others mercy. I had the privilege of serving as a principal for a decade at two excellent schools, Tianjin International School in China and Evansville Christian School in Southern Indiana. When you're a school principal, especially a middle school principal, it isn't uncommon for kids to come to the office for foolish mistakes they've made. We need to remind ourselves that the scared kid in front of us is created in God's image, and we have an opportunity to show them mercy. Let's be thankful when God won't let us forget about our past blunders and the mercy shown us at times. If the student is truly remorseful for their poor choices, respectful towards us, and willing to make amends for their mistakes, let's show them mercy. The discipline they receive shouldn't be as tough. But if they're an arrogant punk who lies and defends their words and actions, you can give them justice. Provide them with the tough (and loving) discipline they deserve. 

So, how are you doing in displaying mercy to your children? Are you always disciplining your children the same way, no matter how they respond to their fumble? Are you failing to see the giant plank in your own eye when they only have a small speck in their eye? Let's remember the mercy God has shown us and be merciful to others. And let's remember, if you are in Christ, you are blessed and will be merciful.

If you want to better understand the difference between mercy and grace, here is a five-minute video from Paul Tripp.

Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. Matthew 5:7

Let's Not Forget About Thanksgiving!

Thanksgiving is next week, but many Americans have been in Christmas mode since November hit. While I'm a fan of Christ-centered Christmas celebrations, let's not forget about Thanksgiving. Thankfulness is a major Bible theme, and we have much to be thankful for! James 1:17 tells us EVERY good and perfect gift is from above; therefore, we should thank God for all the good He gives us. And 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, it's God's will for us in Christ Jesus to give thanks in ALL circumstances. 

It's easy to complain and question God when hard things happen, but giving thanks should be a lifestyle for Christians. Those close to me know that my family has been experiencing some bumps lately, but through the Holy Spirit, we can still give thanks to our Heavenly Father. Thank You, Lord, for the finances. Thank You, Lord, for the insurance. Thank You, Lord, we don't have to get on a plane to visit our family. You are good. All the time.  

So how can we cultivate a heart of thankfulness, especially when life is challenging? Three years ago, I wrote a blog post about this, and I want to remind us of five simple spiritual practices that can help not just during Thanksgiving, but all the time.

1. READING God's Word - I can't emphasize how much being in my Bible has helped me to better understand how to be like Christ and give Him thanks for my family, church, job, and life. Read your Bible, and you'll realize it has much to say about how God's people should be a thankful bunch.

2. REMEMBERING God's Goodness - God has been so good to me. I've been able to adopt three children from China, watch our two daughters get married to godly men, celebrate over two decades of marriage with Megan, encourage all kinds of people in their Christian walk, and more. Take time to thank God for all the good He has done for you!

3. REFLECTING on God's Splendor - We need to stop dwelling on our ever-changing circumstances and look to the awe-inspiring, glorious God who is the Beautiful One. When we think deeply about who Jesus is, the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of His nature (Hebrews 1:3), we can be thankful people who reflect Christ to others.

4. REQUESTING God's Help - We aren't made to be independent, doing life on our own. Our Triune God created us and wants us to trust Him with our lives. When believers are humble and cry out to God as the Psalms instruct, God hears us and can provide comfort and peace during difficult times. This helps our hearts to be thankful regardless of the storms of life.   

5. RESTING in God - Are you a doer and fixer like me? Are you trying to control things and make sure everything is nice and neat? Well, life gets messy at times, and we must always trust Christ to be the source of our strength. If we don't, we will fall apart. Let's slow down, be still, and surrender ourselves to our Sovereign Lord who has everything in control.

There you have it. Read. Remember. Reflect. Request. And Rest. Nothing earth-shattering, but five ways that can cultivate a thankful heart. Who doesn't want that? May your heart be full of thanks this Thanksgiving and every day. To God be the glory.

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. Psalm 136:1

Beatitude 2: Are We Teaching Our Kids to Mourn?

When my father-in-law, Fred, passed away in the spring of 2023, I mourned. I experienced deep grief. This is the man who gave me a call one hot summer day and set me up with his oldest daughter, my wife. A man with whom I had regular phone calls to talk about life and how God was blessing us. The one whom my children called Grandpa Downs - a true servant of Christ who was a godly example of love, patience, kindness, and faithfulness. Although it was difficult to see Fred deteriorate due to Alzheimer's and Parkinson's, I knew he would be free from pain one day. I knew God would fix everything and give Fred a new glorified body upon Christ's return (1 Corinthians 15:51-52). When loved ones die, we should mourn. Even the toughest person in the world, Jesus Christ, mourned when Lazarus died (John 11:35).   

Is this the type of mourning Jesus spoke about in Matthew 5:4? "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." How can we be blessed, spiritually healthy and have a deep joy inside, if we're mourning? This seems to go against what being blessed should feel like. 

Jesus is talking to His disciples about having a deep grief, but the grief He wants us to have pertains to our sins and the sins of the world. We are blessed when we feel sadness and lament over our sins. When we grieve and weep over our impatience towards our children, our unrealistic expectations of our spouse, and our ungratefulness for our jobs and lives, we are blessed. God wants us to mourn and confess our sins to Him so He can comfort us. God is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort (2 Corinthians 1:3-4), and He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). When we agree with God that our hearts are deceitful and desperately sick (Jeremiah 17:9), God will comfort us through the Comforter, the Holy Spirit (John 14:26). 

Folks, if we want to be truly happy, if we want to be blessed, we will be different from the world. We won't hide or try to justify our bad thoughts, words, and actions. We'll repent of our sins; we'll change our minds about our sins, so there is a change of action. We'll mourn over our sins and walk in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16). People will see Christ in us. This is what believers in Christ look like because God is working in them. If we don't feel bad and mourn when we do bad, that's bad! We should mourn over our sins and then look up and praise our amazing God for the comfort He provides. That's good!

Remember, the Beatitudes aren't a list of what we must do, but rather a list of what Christians are and the rewards they receive. Are we mourning over our sins and the sins of the world? What about our children? Are we teaching them what it looks like to be blessed, not as the world teaches, but as Jesus says? If we aren't mourning over our pride, laziness, and unrighteous anger, let's cry out to the One who gives new hearts (Ezekiel 36:26) and renews our minds (Romans 12:2). To God be the glory!

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4

Seven Ways To Glorify God Through Sports

My dad gave me my first soccer ball when I was six while we lived in São José dos Campos, Brazil. As a high schooler, I traveled to numerous states and several European countries with my club team and played on two teams in Puerto Rico. Later, I would coach five high school soccer programs and participate in competitive adult leagues in South Korea, China, and right here in good ol' Indiana. I've been blessed to coach my daughters and son in the beautiful game and served as a middle school wrestling and track coach for a few years in the 90s and early 2000s. I even coached middle school volleyball and basketball teams before coming to ECS. I could see myself coaching soccer again, but I'll be shocked if God leads this 5-foot-5 man back to coaching court sports! 

God has blessed me massively in the world of sports, and I'm thankful sports have been such a significant part of the lives of my three kiddos. I'm grateful I have children who like to run, kick a ball, hit a pickleball, and/or shoot hoops. Josiah Lee and I also enJOY attending sporting events, talking about the latest March Madness scores, watching our Colts and Pacers on TV, and competing against each other in basketball, football, and soccer games on the Xbox. Josiah Lee can't stand losing to me, but I must show him who the Big Poppa is! Sports have provided me with countless wonderful memories. Unfortunately, I also have sports memories that I'm ashamed of. For much of my playing and coaching career, soccer was my identity. There is much I would like to do over, but that's simply not possible. What I can do is share my mistakes and provide ways we can glorify God through sports. 

Below are seven things you can do to honor God when competing or cheering in sports. Through the Spirit, we can do it. Let's do it! Let's be different and develop a radical reputation so individuals and communities are transformed for the glory of God!

1. Cheer for ALL hard-nosed play at competitions. Don't just cheer when your kid or the team they play on does well. When the competition does something impressive, say something nice. Imagine what this world would be like if we were kind and tenderhearted to our opposition (Ephesians 4:32). 

2. Congratulate your opponents when they play well. When the opposing player plays great D on your daughter, or the crosstown rival pulls the upset and defeats your ranked team, tell them good job. Be a Barnabas and encourage them after the game.

3. Correct your kids when they boast and brag. Don't allow your kids to do a muscle pose after they hit a bucket or gesture they're number one after they score a goal. We are to humble ourselves in the sight of the Lord (James 4:10) and remember that apart from Christ, we can do nothing (John 15:5). 

4. Teach your kids to help their opponents up when they knock them down. I want my kids to be the toughest on the field and court, but I also want them to be the kindest. Teach and train them to be like the Lion of Judah AND the Lamb of God.

5. Don't complain about the officiating. You're sinning (Philippians 2:14). Being a ref or umpire can be tough. They're going to make mistakes. They might show some bias. Bite your tongue and meditate on Scripture. Let your speech be seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6).  

6. Thank the coaches for instructing your kiddos, and get your kids to do it after every practice and game. The men and women instructing your kids are likely spending a ton of time coaching and getting paid little or nothing. Saying thanks can go a long way.

7. End your day praising God, and let's not allow ourselves or our children to play the victim. Stop listening to your heart so much and go to Scripture. Thank God for the bodies He gave your kids, the finances that allow your kids to participate in sports, and the ability to pass the tests He gives.

So what do you think? Tall order, I know. It will require a lot of prayer - perhaps before every practice and game. But it's worth it. I would love to hear other ways we can glorify God through sports. Post a comment, email me, or give me a call. To God be the glory! 

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2

Don't Just Talk the Talk...Walk the Walk!

For about half my life, I was a pretty good hypocrite, a whitewashed tomb, acting one way in front of others and sometimes living differently behind closed doors. I wanted people to like me and think I was good, but I didn't love God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength. My heart was often consumed with worldly pleasures, and instead of worshiping Christ as Lord, He was simply my ticket to Heaven. Sure, I participated in some upstanding Christian activities, but I cared more about my bank account and coaching success than I did growing in the Lord. I wish someone had discipled me during my adolescent and young adult years. I made countless mistakes, and I'm thankful God didn't quit on me. We certainly serve a merciful and gracious God who is mighty to save!

I keep making dumb mistakes, but reading and studying God's Word regularly has helped me tremendously in my various roles, such as husband, father, and friend. I don't have a specific place or time I always read my Bible, but I've kept a reading plan since around the late 1990s. God's Word is the sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17) and helps us fight complaining, laziness, pride, and other "respectable" sins that we think aren't a big deal. We should hide God's Word in our hearts so we might not sin against Him (Psalm 119:11). James tells us we simply can't be hearers of the Word - we must do it (James 1:22)! And if we aren't in God's Word, how do we know how to do God's Word? How do we know if we're walking in a manner worthy of the Lord? The world tells you to follow your heart, but that is unbiblical (Jeremiah 17:9). If I followed my heart every time someone made a bonehead move on the road, there would probably be multiple YouTube videos of Wickamania runnin' wild with rage! 

This year at Evansville Christian School, we've been focused on the Book of James at our chapels. Have you read these five chapters written by Jesus' half-brother? Doing so only takes 15-17 minutes, and it will encourage you to live out your faith through good works. The 108 verses were written around 45 AD, probably making James the oldest of the New Testament books. It consists of over 50 commands that provide a clear guide to a godly life. Think of it as the "Proverbs of the New Testament." Much of the Bible can be difficult to comprehend, but the Book of James is an easier read and super practical. Whether you're a new believer or have been a Christian for decades, the Book of James can help all of us to live as faithful followers of Christ. Check out the verses below and have them on repeat in your head!

• ...Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger (James 1:19)
• ...Show no partiality... (James 2:1)
• Do not speak evil against one another... (James 4:11)
• ...Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another...(James 5:16)

Imagine if the whole world obeyed these commands. Wow. We would be living on a radically different planet if that were the case. If you're a Christian, you have the Holy Spirit to enable you to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. Let's do that. Let's be in God's Word, do God's Word, and bring God the glory!

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. James 1:22

Building Resilient Families

PARENTING CAN BE HARD STUFF! Can I get an amen? Even if you have "good" kids, parenting is sometimes tough. BY GOD'S GRACE, our three kiddos have done okay. I would love to tell you I've always been a perfect father who was never impatient, selfish, or easily angered. I would love to tell you that I've always been thankful for my children and pointed them to Christ. No, that would be a BIG FAT LIE. I have been downright lazy and childish at times. I've been emotionally out of control and a monster at times. I'm thankful a camera hasn't been on me 24/7 so the whole world could watch the sins I committed against my kids. I'm thankful God's mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23) and that He doesn't quit on those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). I'm thankful for the Spirit's work, making us who trust in Christ more and more holy. Can I get an amen?

Being a good parent is of the utmost importance to me. It should be of the utmost importance for anyone who has kids. Unfortunately, lots of parents are struggling. There's hope, though - His name is Christ. Any fruit Megan and I have seen in our children is God's blessing on us. I'm thankful for the godly people God has put in our lives who have shown us how to parent our children well. God has also provided us with amazing resources that have helped us know how to raise our children in godly ways. Something that has blessed my family tremendously for a decade is RightNow Media. RightNow Media gives us access to 25,000+ Bible-based videos, enabling us to grow in our faith and disciple our children. Of course, I don't always agree with all the content I hear; however, SO MUCH is helpful.

Starting next Thursday, February 13th, I will facilitate our second annual Resilient Families study for anyone who wants to raise children to live God-honoring lives. This six-week study will be from 8 to 9:30 AM at Epworth Community Church in Newburgh, Indiana, and you can sign up here. Regardless of where you are in your faith, whether you are struggling or doing alright, YOU are invited to join us for a time of ENCOURAGING FELLOWSHIP. This will be a time to pray, talk, laugh, cry, and watch Natasha Crain's video series on RightNow Media, Talking with Your Kids about Jesus. There is NO COST, and you can walk away with the tools needed to help explain who Jesus is, why He matters, and how kids can be radically transformed by Him. 

If you can't attend the study I'm facilitating on Thursday mornings, check out one of the five other Resilient Families studies happening in Henderson, Evansville, and Newburgh on Wednesday evenings. 

• Christian Fellowship Church - 6 to 7:30 PM from February 12th to March 19th
• Crossroads Christian Church - 6:30 to 8 PM from February 12th to March 19th
• RiverWind Church 6 to 7:15 PM from February 12th to March 19th
• One Life Church - 6:30 to 8 PM from April 2nd to April 30th
• Henderson's First Baptist Church - 6 to 7 PM from April 2nd to May 15th

Raising children can be a challenging task, and there is no need to do it alone. Join one of the Resilient Families studies and grow in your faith with others who see the importance of sharing Christ with young people. To God be the glory!

You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:5-7

Get in the Word and Don't Stop!

I was gifted with a New King James Study Bible when I was baptized in 1996 at a small Southern Baptist church in Central Indiana. It wasn't until early 2001, when I was 27 years old, that I read through that entire Bible. It was the toughest year of my life, so I committed to reading and studying my Bible regularly in a new way. The next year, I moved to South Korea to serve with a Christian organization, and my future mother-in-law gave me a New American Standard Bible. It became my go-to translation for six years until the ESV Study Bible was published in 2008. 

I used to write all 66 books and chapters of the Bible on paper and mark off the chapters when I completed them. I now do it on my Mac and highlight the chapters I've read. Keeping track of what I'm reading has helped ensure I don't neglect any part of God's Word. I have struggled through parts of Old Testament history and prophecy and often forget what I've read, but God's Word has been a lamp to my feet and a light to my path (Psalm 119:105). 

Megan and I expected our three children to be in God's Word seven days a week. They didn't always accomplish the goal, which would result in a healthy talk from yours truly. Grace Noel completed her first reading of the Bible in elementary school, and Rosalie did it as a middle schooler. Josiah Lee, our 7th grader, has completed the New Testament and is now reading the Psalms. Are there parts of the Bible that went over their heads? Absolutely. Welcome to the club. We still wanted them to read every word of the Bible and ask us questions when things got confusing. Seeing my kiddos reading and studying their Bibles has helped me walk more closely with Jesus.

If little kids can read the entire Bible, there is no reason YOU can't do this. We spend so much time on social media, attending sporting events, and watching movies and TV shows. Yet it only takes ten to twenty minutes for the average reader to complete three chapters in their Bible. There are 1189 chapters in the Bible, and reading 3.25 chapters a day is all it takes to have it done in a year. If you don't like reading, then listen to the Bible. This can be done as you enJOY breakfast, complete a household task, drive to work, or before you go to bed. Consistently feeding on God's Word can help us progress toward holiness. It can help us resist accepted sins like complaining about our jobs, showing impatience with our children, and being anxious about our finances. It forms us. 

Consider downloading one of the Bible reading plans here and grow in your relationship with God. Figure out a Bible reading rhythm and let God speak to you in new and exciting ways!

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3:16-17

Ten Back to School Tips For Families

You may not like to hear this, but the start of school is almost here. Woo! For some of your kids, this might bring a sense of excitement, but for others, this might cause a little anxiety. No matter what your child feels, I assure you that an amazing first day and first week of school can be accomplished! I have been a teacher for nearly two decades and a principal for one decade. Two of my kiddos graduated from ECHS, and we have a 7th grader bringing up the rear. I know a little about first-day jitters and have ten tips to help your child start on the right foot and have a successful school year. Doing these things may not get them on the honor roll or a starting spot on the basketball team, but they can make school a bit smoother so your child can better embrace a biblical worldview. Consider discussing the list below with your child, and let me know if there is anything else I can do to help. 

1. Eat breakfast. Breakfast helps replenish the blood sugar your child's brain needs to function at its best. On top of that, no one wants a hangry kid at school!

2. Ask questions. Asking questions leads to solving problems, building relationships, and gaining knowledge. Smart people ask questions. 

3. Constantly pray. Don't just pray before a meal or bedtime; make it a lifestyle. It's easy to get stressed out and complain. Spend that time in God's word and pray instead.

4. Get your sleep. We should work heartily for the Lord, but working 24/7 isn't an option. Getting your rest will help you be better focused and think more clearly.

5. Label your stuff. Consider putting your name on your water bottle, lunchbox, and other items you want to keep. Your new jacket is much more likely to be returned to you if your name is on it.

6. Try something new. We provide numerous activities for you to know what you're gifted in. Join that club or sport, participate in a service project or trip, or run for office. Just do it.

7. Be kind and polite. You don't need to be a Christian to know that being an arrogant jerk isn't cool. Smiling, helping others, and showing appreciation can go a long way.

8. Maximize your class time. Why bring work home when you have teachers at school who can help you with it? Take advantage of the time and resources God has given you at ECS.

9. Set out your clothes and pack your backpack the night before school. Mornings can be chaotic, so minimize the chaos by planning ahead. You might need every minute before the morning rush!

10. Share with your family what you're learning and what homework you have. Although I can help my kiddos with their schoolwork, sometimes they teach me a thing or two. God wants us to use our brains to draw each other towards Christ.

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Is Your Speech Gracious Or Are You An Impatient Yeller?

Next month, Rosalie will graduate from college, Grace Noel will graduate from high school, and Josiah Lee will enter middle school. What?! How did this happen? Time certainly flies! Despite our countless parenting mistakes, our kiddos have done okay. They kept up with their studies, contributed to their clubs and teams, gained valuable work experience and skills, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, they follow Christ. Thank you, Jesus. This is all God's grace, and ALL the glory belongs to Him.

Sometimes I receive praise for how our kiddos turned out, but I've made a TON of parenting mistakes that I wish I could take back. I wish I could tell you that I never yelled at my kids, never exasperated them like a little boy, and never showed them my mean Wick face. This would be false, though. At times, I've been an impatient and ungrateful dad. It doesn't have to be this way, and I want to help you to not repeat my mistakes. Colossians 4:6 says, Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. I memorized that verse over two decades ago when I felt a leader didn't give me the full picture.

How do you respond to your children and others when they question your authority, try to deceive you, or give you the cold shoulder? Is your speech gracious (kind and courteous) and seasoned with salt (preserving Christ's loving message), or do you fly off the rails, finger-point, and run wild like a WWE wrestler? How would you feel if a camera were on you 24/7 and all of your home interactions were played at a chapel or church service? I'm pretty confident that things aren't always looking pretty in your home.

So how can we be gracious with our speech, seasoned with salt, regardless of how we're treated or what our circumstances are? How can we tame our tongue and use our words so that we draw our children and others to Christ? Below are four simple but powerful ways to encourage and build up our children and those around us with our words.

1. Look to Christ and tap into the Spirit. Philippians 4:13, an often misquoted verse, says I can do all things through him (Christ) who strengthens me. This verse doesn't mean that we can accomplish any task in front of us, but it does mean that regardless of the hardship we face, we can respond with gracious speech like Christ. Look at Christ's example and, through His Spirit, the Holy Spirit, have Him guide you in what you say (and don't say) and how you say it.

2. Pray Constantly. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says never stop praying. Prayer should be a lifestyle, not just something we do before meals or when we want something. If we are constantly communicating with God, thanking Him, confessing our sins, pleading with Him, and praying for others, our words will be more gracious. Prayer brings us closer to God, so we can better serve our children and the people God places in our lives. 

3. Meditate on Scripture. Fix your mind on God's Word and think deeply about it. Don't just read James 1:19; meditate on it! Emptying your mind isn't found in the Bible. We should fill our minds with verses like James 1:19, which says, Know this, my beloved brothers; let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. Doing so makes me much more likely to speak words of grace and display Christ to my children and others.

4. Remember, we will be judged for our words. Matthew 12:36 says, I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak. I know this verse may not be at the top of your favorite Bible verses list, but it's important to remember that when Christ returns, we will be held accountable for our words and actions. Having that at the forefront of my mind motivates me to do what is right. We should want to please God in all that we think, say, and do, so we can hear God say, "Well done, good and faithful servant!"

Having gracious speech, seasoned with salt, isn't always easy, but it can be done. It should be done. Our children need this, and so do others. If we look to Christ, tap into the Spirit, pray constantly, meditate on Scripture, and remember that we will be rewarded for the good we do, our speech will grow in grace and bring God the glory. Do it. Speak words of grace and bring God the glory. 

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer. Psalm 19:14

Ten Ways We've Trained Up Our Kiddos

Being a good parent can sometimes be HARD! We can be a messy bunch, and our communication is sometimes crazy confusing (Man, I hate sin). Can I get an amen? Being a good parent can also be some of the most rewarding and fulfilling work God ever gives us. Can I get an amen?

It's nice when your children do well in the classroom or succeed in the arts, music, or sports; however, this pales in comparison to when your children obey and worship the Lord. Megan and I have made countless parenting mistakes, but our gracious God has made none. The fact that our three kiddos are walking with the Lord is all God’s grace. This is what we care about the most. 

Although we've made our share of mistakes, we've also done a few things right - Thank you, Jesus! Below are ten ways we have TRAINED our children, which I hope can help you. 

1. We expect our kids to read and study God’s Word independently, and I ask them about what they’re learning from time to time. Scripture saves (1 Timothy 4:16), sustains (Matthew 4:4), and sanctifies (helps us become more like Christ). 

2. We often have family devotions in the evenings. Read more here: The Importance of Family Worship. 

3. We worship together on Sunday mornings and typically talk about the sermons during and/or after the service. I quiz my kids, and Megan reminds me not to forget to enJOY God, church services, and the car ride home. :-)

4. Our kiddos usually attend youth group at our church on Wednesdays and sometimes other church youth groups and trips that we think would be good for them. We need help in training our kids to grow in their faith.

5. Rosalie & Grace Noel were discipled by godly women from our church and were part of all-female small groups at ECS. Again, we need help in training our kids to grow in their faith!

6. My kiddos have spent most of their lives in schools where Truth was taught. We are so thankful for the role TIS & ECS played in their lives.

7. We confess our sins to each other. When daddy messes up, I specifically say what I did wrong, what I plan to improve, and ask for forgiveness. When I'm struggling to think in a Christlike way, I let my family know and ask for their prayers. James 5:16

8. I routinely exhort (strongly encourage and urge) my children when I leave the house. I remind them to give God the glory and enJOY Him (from the Westminster Catechisms). I might also tell them to serve their classmates and do what they can to bless those around them.

9. When we watch movies, listen to music, play sports, etc., we talk about Jesus and what the Bible says. We don't live a dualistic life, separating our faith from everyday matters. We want our children to think and act like Jesus, so we try to look at everything through a gospel lens. 

10. When our children display Christ, we try to praise them for the work God is doing in them. When our children are loving, filled with joy, patient, and bearing other good fruit (Galatians 5:22-23), we want our children to know that this is far more important than the academic and athletic achievements they accomplish.  

There you have it. Of course, if we do everything above in our own power and without love, we are nothing but noisy gongs and gain nothing (1 Corinthians 13:1-3). We have to constantly pray and trust that God will give the increase (1 Corinthians 3:6-8). 

If you would like to share something that has worked for you or have a question about anything I shared, let me know! I would love to hear what God has taught you or help in whatever way I can. To God be the glory! 

Start the Year Fresh With Forgiveness

Forgiveness is powerful. When someone wrongs us but sincerely asks for forgiveness, God allows us to display the richness of His mercy to us in Christ Jesus. We decide to no longer hold the offense against the offender and allow them to receive our gracious gift. Hopefully, this can lead to the reconciliation of the damaged relationship. 

Sadly, I have wronged jillions of people in my 50 years, which has created a great deal of heartache and pain. I've given dirty glances for minuscule infractions, yelled at people out of frustration and anger, and held grudges instead of tapping into the Spirit and displaying Christ. There is so much I would like to redo, but once the words leave your mouth or you execute an action, you can't take it back. 

Thankfully, many people have forgiven me for my boneheaded ways (which were considerably more prevalent before my conversion 24 years ago). Thankfully, I'm increasingly hating my sin and growing in God's grace and knowledge. Thankfully, God has provided me with a great church and godly friends who point me to Jesus. I've learned not to live in my past, but also not forget what God has forgiven me of. 

When you've been forgiven so much and understand you don't deserve the life you have, you learn to be quick to forgive others when they sin against you. It's certainly not always easy, but it is freeing and helps you move forward to better bring God the glory. Are there people you need to forgive? Do you have resentment, anger, and bitterness in your life that are preventing reconciliation from happening? 

2023 is over, and the new year has begun, so let's reflect on what Christ did on the cross, ask those we've wronged to forgive us, and extend forgiveness to those who have wronged us. We can't control how people respond, but we can make decisions that display Christ and magnify His name. Just do it. To God be the glory!

"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Colossians 3:13

The Importance of Family Worship

Before Megan and I adopted Rosalie, Grace Noel, and Josiah Lee, we were blessed to observe godly families we served with in China having family devotions in the evenings. Their beautiful example helped us understand the importance of family worship. God should be worshipped not just on Sunday mornings and during Bible class and chapels at a Christian school; He should be worshipped all the time and in every place. I can't just allow the local church and Christian school to teach my kids about Jesus. I have the enormous responsibility (and privilege) to lead my family in worshipping God in our home. 

Family devotions have been a regular part of our lives, and over the years, they have looked different depending on the age of our kids. When our kids were younger, we sang and danced more. Today, we often watch Bible study videos on RightNow Media. We've catechized our kids, read from God's Word, memorized Scripture together, and used a wide selection of Christian devotionals. We always end our devotions in prayer, and we pray in the same order every time. If we have guests over, we include them in our devotions.

A special time to hear Scripture, pray, and talk about Jesus at home doesn't have to be long, but it needs to happen. Dinnertime or before bed has worked best for us because we wake up at different times. Our devotions have typically been in the living room or at the dining room table, but there's no rule saying they can't be done in a bedroom or bathtub. Be sure to use age-appropriate resources and try to get your kids actively involved in the devotions. Lecturing them for ten minutes probably isn't the best, regardless of how theologically correct you are. You want your kids to enjoy learning about Jesus in hopes that they receive Christ as their Lord and Savior and grow in His grace and knowledge.

Regrettably, I've made some mistakes when leading family devotions (e.g., failing to get family input, being too serious, lack of consistency). What's most important is that you're Bible-based, Christ-centered, and Spirit-filled. If you have family devotions at your home, I would love to hear what you do and what resources have helped your family. If you would like to discuss this topic further with me, please email me or give me a call. I would enJOY doing whatever I can to help your family create more meaningful times around God's Word!

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:6-7

Praying For Christ-Centered Education

People are sometimes confused about what prayer is, but prayer isn't that complicated. It's the primary way for followers of Christ to... 

• COMMUNICATE to God what we are thankful for,
• CONVEY what we hope for, 
• CONFESS what our sin problems are,
• and CELEBRATE God for who He is. 

Prayer is something we often neglect and take for granted, and we need to remember that prayer is only possible because of what Jesus Christ did on the cross. He makes it possible for us to be able to approach God's throne of grace with confidence. Can we say IN-CRED-I-BLE?

A special day dedicated to prayer is the ACSI Day of Prayer. This year, it's on the last day of the month, February 28th. Please join the Association of Christian Schools (an organization I've been a part of for two decades) and Evansville Christian School (where I've worked for the past seven years) in prayer as we pray around the clock. 

What can you pray for? LOTS! Below are just seven things you can lift up. If you're interested in learning more, feel free to contact me. Thanks for being a part of this essential work, and may God be given the glory!

1. Thank God for ECS and for the 3,500+ Global National Schools that ACSI serves.

2. Pray that teachers would empower students to embrace a biblical worldview and that their lives would be transformed.

3. Pray for committed partnerships between educators, parents, churches, and parachurch ministries.

4. Pray that strong Christian men and women would apply to ECS and other Christian schools.

5. Pray that ECS graduates would be salt and light in the Tri-state area, the Midwest, and throughout the world. 

6. Pray that barriers preventing families from receiving a Christ-centered education are torn down. 

7. Pray that lawmakers support and defend our freedom of education. 

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

Cultivating a Thankful Heart

Thanksgiving is around the corner, and there is much to be thankful for...

• My oldest of three is getting married to a godly young man in just two weeks!
• We're members at a great church where I get to serve in a variety of capacities. 
• I have a beautiful wife who draws me to Christ and children walking with the Lord.
• I have a fantastic job that allows me to teach high schoolers what God's Word says. 

My Facebook and Instagram accounts clearly show that God has blessed me big time. What my social media accounts don't show is that life isn't always hunky-dory. Life can definitely be difficult, demanding, and depressing at times. Despite this, we are told to give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you (1 Thessalonians 5:18). How does one do this when family members are clashing, your finances have taken a hit, or the minds and bodies of loved ones are being destroyed by disease? It may not be easy all the time, but here are some simple and essential spiritual practices we can put into place so we complain less and thank God more. To God be the glory!

1. READING God's Word - The Bible is God's word to us and provides us with the answers to life. The Bible reminds us that every good and perfect gift is from above (James 1:17) and equips us to be ATMs (automated thanking machines). Reading and studying your Bible will help you be more joyful and grateful for life. 

2. REMEMBERING God's Goodness - My first date with Megan, holding my children for the first time, being offered a job at ECS, God opening my eyes and giving me a new heart, and the list goes on and on. Take time to look back on all that God has done for you! The LORD has done great things for us; we are glad. Psalm 145:17

3. REFLECTING on God's Splendor - Often I'm navel-gazing when I should be setting my mind on things above (Colossians 3:2). As I meditate on my Heavenly Father and Christ who sits at His right hand, my mind is filled with only beauty. I see a holy God who shines the light of His glory - a light that I can actually shine on others.

4. REQUESTING God's Help - We can't do it alone. Life can be overwhelming, and we need to cry out to God. God is there for us, but we need to get on our knees and admit our dependence on Him. Be humble and communicate continuously with the Creator of the universe. When we cry out to God, He sees our hearts and responds with love (Romans 5:8).

5. RESTING in God - I'm a doer who likes to check off boxes. That isn't always bad, but we must learn to quiet ourselves, be still, and acknowledge that God is sovereign and reigns supreme (Job 42:2). I need to slow down and trust that God has complete control of everything. Take a walk with Megan, go fishing with Josiah Lee, have a meal with my daughters - simply enJOY the life God has given us.

What are some ways you cultivate a thankful heart? I would love to hear from you!

Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. Colossians 4:2

My Ten Most Popular Facebook Pictures in 2020

Below are the most popular pictures taken and posted on my Facebook account (all but three via Instagram) in 2020. Only one picture doesn't contain a smile, so it appears this is what people want to see. We'll keep working on that. Here are my most popular pics from Facebook in the past years: 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018, & 2019. Happy New Year!

Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! Psalm 100:4

A shout-out goes to Diana Tkachuk for the great family pic at the State Hospital Park.

Megan and I took this selfie on our 16th anniversary. It has been an incredible journey!

Josiah Lee and I went camping at Beall Woods State Park in southeastern Illinois.

Josiah Lee caught this bowfin (over two feet long and a new Wickersham record) all by himself.

Grace Noel scored a couple of goals, including the game-winner on Rosalie's senior night.

We enjoyed the beautiful March weather and went hiking at Lincoln State Park.

On Christmas Day, I showed Rosalie the Purdue campus where I attended from 91 to 93.

I tap into my inner middle schooler and get in the Christmas spirit at ECS.

I caught this record-setting bass on my kayak at Blue Grass FWA.

Another picture from Diana Tkachuk on a beautiful fall day in southern Indiana.

Wick's 2020 Highlights

2020 was a wacky year, but 1 Thessalonians 5:16 says to rejoice always. Below are some ways that we rejoiced this year. If you're looking for more, here are past Wickersham highlights: 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018, & 2019. Rejoice!

January - Josiah Lee plays in his first-ever organized basketball game as a member of the Huskies in an Upward Basketball league. I can't say enough about how Upward Basketball is a slam dunk.

February - Grace Noel and I go to Memphis, where she guest plays for an older Sporting SI squad in a college soccer showcase. She knocked in her first goal for the club, and the team left with two wins and a tie.

March - Schools close their buildings, and Megan and I start providing emergency remote learning. I tap into my Japanese side and create a YouTube channel for school purposes, and learn how to use Google Meet and Zoom.

April - I get the honor to give the middle school & high school Easter chapel talk at ECS. I continue to learn that I strongly prefer speaking to a live audience instead of into a camera. Despite my introverted ways, I really do like seeing people.

May - Megan and I find ourselves doing activities we haven't done in ages. Occasionally, I skateboard with Josiah Lee, and Megan and I visit the tennis courts. I don't ever remember as a 16-year-old getting sore from skateboarding. What happened?

June - Josiah Lee and I go camping and fishing at Beall Woods State Park in southeastern Illinois, and the entire Wickersham clan visits Gulf Shores, Alabama, at the end of the month. Everyone enjoys the beach, and to my delight, I catch several new species.

July - We make a stop in Montgomery, Alabama, and meet up with some old "China" friends. I also decided to accept a club soccer position that allows me to coach Josiah Lee and see him hit the back of the net and dish out some assists. 

August - I complete my third two-week course and earn an Evangelism & Leadership in Crisis certificate from Wheaton College, Megan's alma mater. My soccer squad loses its first three matches, but they win four of its six matches in October. HUGE improvement.

September - We are thankful to see Rosalie and Grace Noel competing on the soccer field together. ECHS has a dream season and goes 9-1-1 during the regular season and finishes with a #7 ranking in Class 1A. Rosalie served as one of the captains again and was named ISCA Academic All-State for the second time.

October - Despite nearly getting into a panic after I spotted a bear, we had a great time during our fall break in Gatlinburg, Tennessee. At the end of the month, ECHS wins the NCSAA soccer tourney, and Grace Noel is named to the all-tournament team.

November - Josiah Lee starts playing basketball for ECS, and I give a presentation about Eric Liddell at Faith Bible Church. Grace Noel has a match that Sunday morning, but we leave it early so she can hear me talk about the "Flying Scotsman." 

December - We celebrate Christ's advent with Megan's parents. Fred comes home from the nursing home on Christmas Eve, and we drop off some gifts with my parents. God is good.

Wick's Highlights of the Past Decade

A new decade is upon us, and I have been reflecting on the past ten years. There were certainly some tough times for us in the last decade, but God blessed us with much. Below are some of those highlights.

2010: It took 3.5 years, but Rosalie became an official Wickersham and an American citizen. Shortly after that, I started an M.Ed. in educational administration before starting my new job as the middle school principal at TIS.

2011: I baptized Rosalie, and later in the year, unbeknownst to us, Josiah Lee was born.

2012: I received a picture of my son. I never wanted a boy or a third child, but God radically changed my heart.

2013: We adopted Josiah Lee, and I completed my degree at CIU. Megan provided me critical support and helped me see the choices I needed to make.

2014: I returned to the classroom and got to teach and coach Rosalie. I also coached Grace Noel in her first soccer matches.

2015: We told family and friends that we would be moving back to the States in 2016. I added middle school boys' basketball and volleyball to my coaching resume and conducted soccer camps for Indy Eleven in the summer. I coached a boys' soccer team for the first time since 1996, and it was announced that I would coach the TIS high school girls' soccer team the next season - my first high school team since 2003.

2016: I'm hired as the 6th-9th grade assistant principal at Evansville Christian School, and we moved back to Indiana. This is the first time our kiddos have lived outside of China. I was overseas for 14 years of my adult life, and Megan was in China for 19 years. Megan eventually lands ESL positions at USI and through Vincennes University.

2017: Just a few weeks into the school year, it was announced that I'm now the Cullen Campus principal. I wasn't sure if I would like being a principal again, but it has been a great fit. I'm thankful to be able to work in a growing community of believers who desire to know Christ and make Him known.

2018: We watched Grace Noel get baptized at Faith Bible Church. I'm regularly reminding my children that all of our accomplishments amount to nothing if we aren't following Christ and bringing God glory.

2019: This year's highlight was all the time we got to spend with our family and old friends. We are grateful when friends from other parts of the country or world visit us, as well as God's provision that enables us to visit amigos in Central Indiana, Ohio, and the Deep South.

2020+: We do not know what God has planned for us, but I know that He is good and will bring what He began to completion. We must trust Him and strive to bring joy to our Father.

to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:21