How do you respond to your children when they don't complete their chores or homework? How do you respond to a co-worker who disagrees with you and disrespects you? Do these situations stress you out, tick you off, get you down in the dumps, or make you feel like you got hit by a Mack Truck? How you handle new and problematic situations shows your resilience level, and people with greater emotional intelligence show greater resilience. If you struggle to be resilient, express your emotions maturely, and handle interpersonal relationships wisely and with love, don't fret! Resilience is something we can grow in.
I like how the Cambridge Dictionary defines resilience. Resilience is "the ability to be happy, successful, etc. again after something difficult or bad has happened." A resilient person adapts well to adversity and can bounce back from difficult situations. He or she has strong coping skills, knows how to use the available resources, and isn't afraid to ask for help. Resilient people persist, persevere, and don't yield to pressure.
We should all want to be resilient and help others be resilient. We should work heartily for the Lord (Colossians 3:23), listen to constructive criticism (Proverbs 15:31), and give thanks in all circumstances (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Because we live in a sinful world, we certainly know this will be difficult. Sometimes we'll have to battle laziness, complaining, and being overly sensitive or defensive. This fight might come from within or we might experience it with a family member, neighbor, or colleague.
How are you doing in the area of resilience? Are you showing yourself to be resilient? Do you adapt to situations and press on when your circumstances are less than ideal? If we struggle with the smaller things in life, how will we respond when life gets super stressful and hits us with a massive storm?
The hardships that many Christians face around the world are horrendous. According to Open Doors, a non-denominational mission supporting persecuted Christians around the world, more than 365 million Christians suffer high levels of persecution and discrimination for their faith. More than 4,000 Christians were detained last year, and 5,000 Christians were killed for faith-related reasons. 15,000 churches and Christian properties were attacked. If our persecuted brothers and sisters living in Africa and Asia can be resilient, through Christ, so can we.
If there is anyone who should be resilient, it should be us. We aren't little kids trying to figure out life. The overwhelming majority of Americans have an abundance of resources available at their fingertips, and if you're a Christian, the all-powerful Holy Spirit resides in you (Romans 8:9). Christians have the sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17), God's Word, hidden in our hearts so that we might not sin against our Creator (Psalm 119:11). We have the Body of Christ to encourage one another and build each other up (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
Faith in the Lord is the key to Job-like, Paul-like, and CHRIST-like resilience. We must get our eyes off our circumstances and look to the cross at home, work, and during tough times. Let's hold fast to Proverbs 3:5-6 and point others to Christ daily. Let's trust the Lord with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding. In all our ways, let's acknowledge God and He will direct our paths. Godly resilience will help us pass God's tests, big and small, empower our children to embrace a biblical worldview, and bring God all the glory!
For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:10
