Beatitude 6: Are We Teaching Our Kids to be Pure in Heart?

Follow your heart. Sounds like pretty good advice, right? It's probably something you've heard a million times. World-class athletes say it, you'll hear it in Hollywood movies and pop songs, and you're sure to find it on trendy canvas prints and photo books at Michaels and Wally World.  

What does the Bible say about our hearts? Should we be following our hearts? Jeremiah 17:9 says, "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?" Matthew 15:18-19 says, "But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander." Ouch. It doesn't sound like we should follow our hearts. You don't need to be a Christian, though, to understand that following your heart is BAD advice. 

When little kids follow their hearts, they often complain about their food, don't share their toys, hit their siblings, and lie about what they did. If you think this is an inaccurate representation of children, you've never been a parent. Stubborn hearts are also found in adults. I would love to tell you that my heart is always in the right place. It's not. I can give a beautiful gospel presentation, watch someone proclaim Christ as their Lord and Savior, then get in my sweet Dodge Caravan and get upset at someone who drives like an idiot. Sometimes I forget I'm the idiot. 

Folks, when our hearts are impure, selfish, judgmental, and dishonest, we will not see God. To be pure in heart, clean, clear, and blameless, we must receive Christ and believe in His name. We need to follow Jesus, not our hearts (Matthew 4:19). Our hearts can't save us, but Jesus can save us from our hearts. Only Jesus can make our hearts pure so we can be in a relationship with God. Psalm 51:10 says, "Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." And Ezekiel 36:26 says, "And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh." We don't ask Jesus into our hearts; He gives us new hearts. 

When Jesus does a cleansing work in us and makes our hearts pure, we pursue lives of purity and uprightness. Jesus is the vine, and we are the branches producing good fruit that glorifies God (John 15:5). We have a heart for God and want to honor Him in all that we think, say, and do. We aren't Pharisees who emphasize external ritual purity; we have an internal purity of the soul that people see as real and genuine. We actually enJOY Jesus and want others to know His love. We are true born-again believers, not fake Christians whose words and deeds show hypocrisy and cunning deception. 

So how are we doing in teaching our kids to be pure in heart? Do our children clearly see Christ in us? Are we poor in spirit, mourning our sins and the sins of the world, hungering and thirsting for righteousness, being meek and merciful? Let's pursue Christ and a life of purity. Let's set our minds on things above and let Christ do His sanctifying work in our lives!

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. Matthew 5:8

Does Easter Excite You? Does Christ Excite You?

We Americans sure love our holidays. We spent more than 13 BILLION dollars on Halloween costumes, candy, and decorations last year. Thanksgiving has become synonymous with family, food, and football. And things have gotten totally out of control when it comes to gift-giving and outdoor lights during Christmastime. What about Easter? Do you know when it is? Does it excite you that Easter is around the corner? Despite what the world says, there is no greater holiday than Easter. Let me repeat - There is no greater holiday than Easter!

Celebrating Easter is about celebrating the Risen Christ. Jesus lived a perfect life, laid down His life on Good Friday, and came back to life on Resurrection Sunday, proving once again, HE IS GOD! Do others see us excited about this? Is it clear to others that we are alive in Christ? Let's be sure to share the good news of Jesus Christ with everyone we can. As followers of Christ, we want Heaven crowded. We want others to know God and have peace and joy in a life that can be full of challenges. Let's not be quiet about Easter and what Christ did. Let's be sure to give God the glory. 

1. The Resurrection proves that Jesus is the all-powerful God victorious over sin and death. We can trust Him.

2. The Resurrection confirms that God's wrath was satisfied and our debt was paid in full. Those trusting in Christ are forgiven of their sins.

3. The Resurrection assures followers of Christ that we serve a living Savior who mediates and intercedes for us. We are to be envied.

4. The Resurrection guarantees the future resurrection of born-again believers. We are alive, and a new and perfect home is being prepared for us.

I hope you believe this. If you are struggling in your faith, unsure of who Christ is, or just have some questions, please don't hesitate to reach out to me. I'll do what I can to listen well and point you to our Savior and living hope, Jesus Christ. 

Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?" John 11:25-26

The 2026 Flourishing Families Study - Parenting: It's Not What You Think...

Do you find parenting to be like the pretty picture below? Is your family always smiling and exchanging pleasantries? Although my family truly enjoys spending time together, we haven't been oozing the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) every second of our lives. Sometimes I've been an unloving, impatient, and unkind blockhead. Parenting can be hard stuff, but I'm not making it any easier when I fail to look to the cross and allow my feelings to be the ultimate guide. I need help, BIG TIME. I'm thankful our all-powerful, all-knowing, good God has provided us help in a variety of ways.

One of our core values at ECS is to commit to partnership, and one way we do this is through the Flourishing Families studies being held at the following five churches. It's hard to believe, but this is our third year having these parenting studies.  

• Christian Fellowship Church
• Crossroads Christian Church
• Epworth Community Church
• Henderson's First Baptist Church
• One Life Church

This year, we will be using Paul Tripp's Parenting: It's Not What You Think It Is video series. Although both of my daughters are married, and Megan and I only have an eighth-grade boy in our home now, we still have much to learn about parenting. Pastor Paul Tripp has been married for over 50 years and has four adult children, so he is someone who can help us learn how to raise children in God's ways. He has taught me much about living a gospel-centered life, and I believe he can help us disciple our children and find rest in God. 

Being a great dad is super important to me, and if you're a parent, being a great parent should be of the utmost importance to you. Please consider signing up for one of the studies to gain insight into being a better parent and help your family flourish. You don't have to be a member of any of the churches, and if you're struggling with knowing what you believe, that's okay, too. These studies are a time when we can be real with each other, provide encouraging support, and better understand the best way to parent. 

If you can't make one of the Sunday or Wednesday evening studies, join us at Epworth Community Church for the study I'm facilitating on Monday mornings from 8 to 9:30 AM. It begins February 23rd, and you can sign up here. Raising children can be challenging, and there is no need to do it alone. Let's learn and grow together and bring God the glory. I hope to see you there!

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Beatitude 5: Are We Teaching Our Kids to be Merciful?

Can you define mercy? Mercy is a word we often hear, but I'm not confident that many can explain it. Lots of people confuse it with grace. Grace is unmerited favor. It's a God-given gift that you don't deserve. We named our first kid, Grace Noel. She's a gift from God that we don't deserve. I've committed countless crimes against God, but God, in His amazing grace, saved me and showed me I was a selfish sinner worshiping my success and money. My pursuit of Jesus was shallow for a few years, and I wasn't living life for God's glory. God woke me up, though, and I'm now a trophy of His grace.

So what is mercy? Mercy is about not getting what you do deserve. You've messed up big time, but the person you wronged doesn't smack you for your stupidity. 

Are you familiar with the Parable of the Prodigal Son? Here is the ultimate story of mercy. You have two sons, one who does everything "right" and one who does everything wrong. The younger son disrespectfully demands his share of the estate, and the father lets his sinful son go his way. The son squanders his wealth recklessly, but then realizes he can return to his dad and live a far better life as a servant. When the son returns, the dad doesn't rip into him and reject him for his foolish choices. No, he shows him mercy and is thankful the son has returned home. This doesn't sit well with the older self-righteous brother, who is following all of the rules. Where do you see yourself in this story? Are you like the older son, a judgmental Pharisee, or are you like the younger son who sees his sins and confesses them? Are we like the dad, who represents God, who embraces his son with love and mercy despite all of the dumb decisions he made?

God has provided me with tons of opportunities to show others mercy. I had the privilege of serving as a principal for a decade at two excellent schools, Tianjin International School in China and Evansville Christian School in Southern Indiana. When you're a school principal, especially a middle school principal, it isn't uncommon for kids to come to the office for foolish mistakes they've made. We need to remind ourselves that the scared kid in front of us is created in God's image, and we have an opportunity to show them mercy. Let's be thankful when God won't let us forget about our past blunders and the mercy shown us at times. If the student is truly remorseful for their poor choices, respectful towards us, and willing to make amends for their mistakes, let's show them mercy. The discipline they receive shouldn't be as tough. But if they're an arrogant punk who lies and defends their words and actions, you can give them justice. Provide them with the tough (and loving) discipline they deserve. 

So, how are you doing in displaying mercy to your children? Are you always disciplining your children the same way, no matter how they respond to their fumble? Are you failing to see the giant plank in your own eye when they only have a small speck in their eye? Let's remember the mercy God has shown us and be merciful to others. And let's remember, if you are in Christ, you are blessed and will be merciful.

If you want to better understand the difference between mercy and grace, here is a five-minute video from Paul Tripp.

Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. Matthew 5:7

Beatitude 4: Are We Teaching Our Kids to Hunger and Thirst For Righteousness?

We've been examining the Beatitudes in our chapels this year, and it's crucial to recognize that Jesus' teachings on the character of Christians build upon each other. 

• Beatitude 1: Christians are poor in spirit. We humbly admit our need for God; we can't save ourselves. Only Christ gives us access to God and eternal life in Heaven.
• Beatitude 2: Christians mourn. We hate our sins and the sins of the world; yet, we find comfort and peace in God, despite the difficulties we face.
• Beatitude 3: Christians are meek. We don't try to take control and overpower people. We are led by the Spirit, bless others, and receive God's blessings. 

This brings us to beatitude 4. Matthew 5:6 says, Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied. Does this describe you and your heart? Are we teaching our kids to hunger and thirst for righteousness, showing them this is how to be blessed and where our souls receive satisfaction? What does that even mean?

To hunger and thirst for righteousness is to actively seek a right relationship with God. We desire to be like Christ, and if we are in Christ, trusting in Christ as Lord and Savior, His righteous character will be seen in us by others. We understand that only Christ can quench our thirsts and feed our souls. Jesus said, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again (John 4:14a). Later in John 6:35, Jesus says to a large crowd, I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst. Jesus is essential for life and the life to come. He is the way to God and a life pleasing to God. 

Seeking a right relationship with God starts with acknowledging our sins to Him. We humbly confess our unholy thoughts, words, and actions to God - our pride, ungratefulness, impatience, laziness, selfishness, and more. We confess that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). When we call on the name of the Lord, we will be saved (Acts 2:21), and we will hunger and thirst for righteousness. This is what true Christians do because we find satisfaction in Christ.

So, are you hungering and thirsting for righteousness? Are you teaching this to your kiddos? I want to encourage you to get in God's Word daily, like Mr. Allen recently challenged us. This is the greatest way to grow in God's grace and knowledge. We must be people of the Word if we want to be satisfied. And if we are His blessed people who hunger and thirst for righteousness, that's what we'll be.

If you would like to discuss this further, please don't hesitate to reach out to me. I'll do what I can to listen, encourage, and point you to the King of kings, Lord of lords, Jesus Christ. He is good!

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied. Matthew 5:6